UTMC

Ok... Ive mentioned I have a bonk buddy... she isnt realy involved in this decision.

But the girl who is coming up from melbourne I have a slight problem with. Her and I were in the same year in highschool, for one year. we went to different schools for our 2 senior years and then she went overseas and when she came back, went to university in a different state. We had major crushes on each other in that year but we didnt act cause i was hooked up in a beginning relationship with my now EX.

Flash forward 4 years and a chance meeting while she is up here visiting family on uni holidays we exchange emails and such.

Flash forward a month, several deep and meaningful conersations later,she is very into the idea of an us, and from my point yeah its a very attractive idea.

BUT

My Ex scarred me when she left, my car accident wasnt an "accident" it was a suicide by proxy attempt. Kinda like walking into a biker bar in a TuTu and yelling "harley riders are faggots and couldnt kick my ass if they tried"

The thing is... If her and i do turn out to be good while she is up here, If we want to be a REAL couple (I.e no bonking other people)it requires me to move 1200 some km to be nearer to her, or her to relocate back up here (unlikely)

Im afraid of commitment now, because im afraid of working at something and being burned like i was, and im afraid of doing anything realy special for a girl again. especialy when im getting some of my needs filled by a girl who is happy to come over for a movie and a romp in the sack a few times a week.

But i also remember the happy couple walking down the beach hand in hand bullshit too... and how deleriously happy it made me

GAH not sure what im asking... ADVICE?!?

your young. do what feels right.... whats the worst that can happen?? you move again??
dont let your self ever say..."what if......" that will always suck more and far longer than any moving bill....

lets see, you could move and .............

get a different job that might (or might not) suck a little less ass.

get to ride (and perhaps) on new roads

get to meet new people who might be cool.

get to fall in love (and maybe just get crushed again)


or you could just be in a warm comfortable place and maintain status quo.

I think it's a no brainer............

Not like we've all the details needed to make an informed decision, but with what you've given......... yup it's a no brainer.

Get a new bike instead....... forget the other thing...... new bike = happiness. New woman ( actually knew women ) = ? or less

Regards
Midlife.......

Go for it. But don't move your life JUST for her. Moving anywhere for someone you don't already have a serious relationship with is.... stupid. Not saying it won't end up fantastic, but don't do it ONLY for her.
Do it for yourself, for a new place, new experiences, new people, all the other reasons people have mentioned. Make sure you have your OWN life in your new home If you do it for you, as well as for her, your chances at an awesome relationship will definitely be increased

Seriously, what can you lose? Moving and having a relationship fail is far better than never knowing.

xx

If you have no strings holding you were you are go for it. I find its better to do and regret then never doing... but then again you might end up on your face again, but thats life. Nothing risked, nothing gained... Most importantly follow your gut felling, not the one in your pants, but your gut...

12 days till she gets here...

Its kinda scarry... at the same time i cant wait but im terrified of what happens when she does get here...

aghh just be excited... dont expect anything so if something good happens youll be blown away!:)